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Stopping Toxic Masculinity

“Why we rape our women, do we hate our women? I think it’s time to kill for our women; time to heal our women, be real to our women.” – Tupac, Keep Ya Head Up

I have been challenging myself to develop preventive measures for young men in middle school to proactively educate them on stopping violence against women. As owner of Divas In Defense, I am proud to say we have trained tens of thousands of women Worldwide. From the high seas of the Tom Joyner Fantastic Voyage, to the hot desserts of Kuwait, the Divas In Defense training staff have worked diligently to empower women through self-defense. Yet, the feeling of incompletion weighs heavy on my heart. How can I, as a man, reach young men to prevent attacks?

Today, at the A CALL TO MEN: Engaging Men in the #MeToo Era sponsored by Uber and hosted at The Gathering Spot, myself and a few good men came together for this one special reason… including men in the fight to end violence against women (VAW). I mean, we have all been trained to respect women and don’t hit girls. Yet, we objectify them and are very misogynistic towards them and sometimes… we don’t even know it. It is time for men to be intentional when preventing VAW. There were some wonderful speakers and panelists including: Jennifer Bivins (Georgia Network to End Sexual Assault), Adrian Githuku (Uber), Tony Porter (A Call To Men), Lina Juarbe Botella (A Call To Men), Elisa Covarrubias (LiveSAFE Resources), Langston Walker (Georgia Network to End Sexual Assault), and Greg Loughlin (Men Stopping Violence).

“Stop Toxic Masculinity!”

This message resonated with me because I found myself guilty of toxic masculinity. Growing up in the inner city, men are led to believe anything which society deems as “girly” is unacceptable. Men are not to show emotion or ask for help. How idiotic is this? Without a proper outlet, emotions can erupt in anger. “The glue to the man box is homophobia.” – Tony Porter. Why are men afraid of being compared to women? Most men were raised by a strong woman, yet see women as weak and docile.

It is time to cultivate the inclusion of men! I have started with my sons, but this is not enough! I implore mothers to be transparent with past experiences when it comes to their sons. The reason for starting Divas In Defense was because my brother and I witnessed domestic violence in the household. I wish these sons would #AskYourMama about being victimized. It is so easy to dismiss violence against women unless it’s one you personally love.

My message to these young men begins with becoming certified in A Call To Men and the following pledge:

  • I will show and speak love to my sons and fellow men.
  • I will be a positive example to boys and men.
  • I will hold men accountable for their verbal and physical actions.
  • I will be proactive in educating men on the variety of abuse and protection of womanhood.
  • I will not allow the misogyny of women.
  • I will be comfortable with my vulnerabilities.
  • I will dedicate some of my time to mentoring young men.

#LoveMePainFree #AskYourMama #MyNamesNotBaby #DivasInDefense #MeToo #ACallToMen #Uber #TheGatheringSpot #MenStoppingViolence #GeorgiaNetworkToEndSexualAssault #StopVAW #SexualAssault #LiveSAFE

 

Punchin’ Luncheon

**PRIVATE CLASS**
Divas In Defense Instructors will come to you and present a lecture on various topics such as Bullying/Workplace Bullying Prevention, Situation Awareness, Crime Prevention, Social Media “NET”-iquette, Sexual Assault Prevention, Identity Theft Prevention, Cyber Safety and much more. In addition, we will also demonstrate self-defense techniques and have a Q & A about a wide array of safety tips and statistics

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Our Fierce & Fabulous prepares the DIVA (Dangerous If Violently Attacked) in you for day-to-day challenges you may face. It enables you to recognize potentially hazardous situations and be aware of your surroundings.

Rape Awareness & Resistance

A Look at How Rape Really Happens

Many women think of rape as a stranger jumping out of the bushes and sexually assaulting her. This is a good news and bad news situation.

The good news is that the “jump out the bushes rapist is:

A) the rarest type and
B) the easiest to avoid and prevent.

The same measures that keep you from being robbed will protect you from being sexually assaulted in this manner. So, the odds of this happening to you are pretty rare to start with and a little bit of knowledge and a few simple, commonsense measures will greatly reduce those odds even further.

Now, for the really good news, if you are not associating with a certain kind of people or engaging in high risk behaviors, the odds of you being raped plummet close to zero.

Unfortunately, that is the last of the good news. The bad news is that the reality of rape is not simple. It is, in fact, a complex problem. Yet, complex problems, seldom, if ever, have simple solutions.

An undisputed truth is that “stranger” rapes only constitute a minute number of rapes. An overwhelming majority of sexual assaults occur between people who know one another. Sometimes intimately, sometimes peripherally, but it is someone you have regular dealings with.

That means it is not just a simple “crime” nearly as much as it’s a twisted extension and extreme of human interaction. That is where things start getting complicated.

This course gives you the components to effectively be aware of and resist situations that could possibly put you in harm’s way.

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Our Fierce & Fabulous prepares the DIVA (Dangerous If Violently Attacked) in you for day-to-day challenges you may face. It enables you to recognize potentially hazardous situations and be aware of your surroundings.

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PUNCHIN’ LUNCHEON

**PRIVATE CLASS**
Divas In Defense Instructors will come to you and present a lecture on various topics such as Bullying/Workplace Bullying Prevention, Situation Awareness, Crime Prevention, Social Media “NET”-iquette, Sexual Assault Prevention, Identity Theft Prevention, Cyber Safety and much more. In addition, we will also demonstrate self-defense techniques and have a Q & A about a wide array of safety tips and statistics

LAX – F+F

Our Fierce & Fabulous prepares the DIVA (Dangerous If Violently Attacked) in you for day-to-day challenges you may face. It enables you to recognize potentially hazardous situations and be aware of your surroundings.

Introduction to Basic Self Defense

In this course, you’ll learn how to condition yourself to be alert and aware of dangerous situations that can easily be prevented. In addition, you will learn to develop and utilize the following components:

  • How to use your natural instincts to protect and defend yourself
  • Master the basics of assessing your environment for weapons and escape routes
  • Understanding the key vital points of the body that can distract an attacker
  • A natural defensive stance that can throw any attacker off-guard
  • Basic strikes, basic blocks, basic kicks

An overview of self-defense at close, middle, and longer ranges.

LAX – GCFT (4/4)

A physical, emotional and psychological enriching self-defense system designed for girls ages 7 to 15. We implement real-life scenarios in our training to better prepare our girls for the dangers society present. We are careful and meticulous in conveying societal dangers and issues girls in this demographic face. Our program not only prepares these girls not to be scared, it empowers them to have heightened self-esteem, confidence and fight obesity.

I Am Worth Fighting For

Empowerment and personal value are instilled in this segment which introduces young Divas to application of learned techniques in real-life situations. The young Divas grasp the importance of personal safety, awareness and boundary setting in their day-to-day lives. The best way to avoid danger is to realize it before it happens. The final course in this four-part series expedites response time and teaches situation awareness in society.

The course concludes with a Girls Can Fight Too! Certificate of Completion

LAX – GCFT (3/4)

A physical, emotional and psychological enriching self-defense system designed for girls ages 7 to 15. We implement real-life scenarios in our training to better prepare our girls for the dangers society present. We are careful and meticulous in conveying societal dangers and issues girls in this demographic face. Our program not only prepares these girls not to be scared, it empowers them to have heightened self-esteem, confidence and fight obesity.

What/Who Are Your Supports & Internet Safety

They identify family, community, and school supports to assist with being a Fierce and Fabulous Girl That Can Fight Too! Young Divas learn about potential dangers of the internet; plan how they will stay safe when using the internet. We discuss cyber predators and identity theft prevention.

The course concludes with a Girls Can Fight Too! Certificate of Completion

LAX – Fierce & Fabulous

Our Fierce & Fabulous prepares the DIVA (Dangerous If Violently Attacked) in you for day-to-day challenges you may face. It enables you to recognize potentially hazardous situations and be aware of your surroundings.

Introduction to Basic Self Defense

In this course, you’ll learn how to condition yourself to be alert and aware of dangerous situations that can easily be prevented. In addition, you will learn to develop and utilize the following components:

  • How to use your natural instincts to protect and defend yourself
  • Master the basics of assessing your environment for weapons and escape routes
  • Understanding the key vital points of the body that can distract an attacker
  • A natural defensive stance that can throw any attacker off-guard
  • Basic strikes, basic blocks, basic kicks

An overview of self-defense at close, middle, and longer ranges.

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