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Stopping Toxic Masculinity

“Why we rape our women, do we hate our women? I think it’s time to kill for our women; time to heal our women, be real to our women.” – Tupac, Keep Ya Head Up

I have been challenging myself to develop preventive measures for young men in middle school to proactively educate them on stopping violence against women. As owner of Divas In Defense, I am proud to say we have trained tens of thousands of women Worldwide. From the high seas of the Tom Joyner Fantastic Voyage, to the hot desserts of Kuwait, the Divas In Defense training staff have worked diligently to empower women through self-defense. Yet, the feeling of incompletion weighs heavy on my heart. How can I, as a man, reach young men to prevent attacks?

Today, at the A CALL TO MEN: Engaging Men in the #MeToo Era sponsored by Uber and hosted at The Gathering Spot, myself and a few good men came together for this one special reason… including men in the fight to end violence against women (VAW). I mean, we have all been trained to respect women and don’t hit girls. Yet, we objectify them and are very misogynistic towards them and sometimes… we don’t even know it. It is time for men to be intentional when preventing VAW. There were some wonderful speakers and panelists including: Jennifer Bivins (Georgia Network to End Sexual Assault), Adrian Githuku (Uber), Tony Porter (A Call To Men), Lina Juarbe Botella (A Call To Men), Elisa Covarrubias (LiveSAFE Resources), Langston Walker (Georgia Network to End Sexual Assault), and Greg Loughlin (Men Stopping Violence).

“Stop Toxic Masculinity!”

This message resonated with me because I found myself guilty of toxic masculinity. Growing up in the inner city, men are led to believe anything which society deems as “girly” is unacceptable. Men are not to show emotion or ask for help. How idiotic is this? Without a proper outlet, emotions can erupt in anger. “The glue to the man box is homophobia.” – Tony Porter. Why are men afraid of being compared to women? Most men were raised by a strong woman, yet see women as weak and docile.

It is time to cultivate the inclusion of men! I have started with my sons, but this is not enough! I implore mothers to be transparent with past experiences when it comes to their sons. The reason for starting Divas In Defense was because my brother and I witnessed domestic violence in the household. I wish these sons would #AskYourMama about being victimized. It is so easy to dismiss violence against women unless it’s one you personally love.

My message to these young men begins with becoming certified in A Call To Men and the following pledge:

  • I will show and speak love to my sons and fellow men.
  • I will be a positive example to boys and men.
  • I will hold men accountable for their verbal and physical actions.
  • I will be proactive in educating men on the variety of abuse and protection of womanhood.
  • I will not allow the misogyny of women.
  • I will be comfortable with my vulnerabilities.
  • I will dedicate some of my time to mentoring young men.

#LoveMePainFree #AskYourMama #MyNamesNotBaby #DivasInDefense #MeToo #ACallToMen #Uber #TheGatheringSpot #MenStoppingViolence #GeorgiaNetworkToEndSexualAssault #StopVAW #SexualAssault #LiveSAFE

 

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In this course, you’ll learn how to condition yourself to be alert and aware of dangerous situations that can easily be prevented. In addition, you will learn to develop and utilize the following components: How to use your natural instincts to protect and defend yourself;
Master the basics of assessing your environment for weapons and escape routes; Understanding the key vital points of the body that can distract an attacker; A natural defensive stance that can throw any attacker off-guard; Basic strikes, basic blocks, basic kicks; An overview of self-defense at close, middle, and longer ranges.

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In this course, you’ll learn how to condition yourself to be alert and aware of dangerous situations that can easily be prevented. In addition, you will learn to develop and utilize the following components: How to use your natural instincts to protect and defend yourself;
Master the basics of assessing your environment for weapons and escape routes; Understanding the key vital points of the body that can distract an attacker; A natural defensive stance that can throw any attacker off-guard; Basic strikes, basic blocks, basic kicks; An overview of self-defense at close, middle, and longer ranges.

Summer Bully

It’s the last day of school, and you’re thinking, “Maybe my child can finally rest, no more bullying.” WRONG! Unfortunately, the summer is prime bullying season, the difference is those kids’ parents are your friends. Yes, there is a bully in your neighborhood! In some aspect, you are wrong for not realizing it.

Unlike the constant supervision in school, most kids in the neighborhood play hours unsupervised. This subjects your child to endless hours of demeaning and often physical attacks. Then, we ignore our children when we decide to visit our neighbors for dinner; placing them right in the belly of the beast. We have to pay attention to  our siblings; the breath of our bosom, the fruit of our loins, the chip off the block.

Character.org states:

Repeated bullying causes severe emotional harm and can erode a child’s self-esteem and mental health. Whether bullying is verbal, physical or relational, the long-term effects are equally harmful. Both boys and girls report high levels of emotional distress and loneliness as well as lower self-esteem, loneliness, anxiety, and depression.

Here are a few warning signs that your child may have a Summer Bully:

  • Unexplained physical marks, cuts, bruises, and scrapes
  • Clothes, toys, books, electronic items are damaged or missing or child reports mysteriously “losing” possessions
  • Doesn’t want to go to activities with peers
  • Marked change in typical behavior or personality
  • Appears sad, moody, angry, anxious or depressed and that mood lasts with no known cause
  • Physical complaints; headaches and stomach aches
  • Difficulty sleeping, nightmares, cries self to sleep, bed wetting
  • Change in eating habits

Remember, just because school has ended doesn’t mean the bullying has! For more information on bullying, visit divasindefense.com/victim-resources.

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On Her Own is designed for high school juniors/seniors and college women who will be or currently living alone. The course offers empowerment, inspiration and some street fighting skills developed to counterattack a perpetrator. We let women know they have the right to stand up for themselves in relationships and on the street. Divas In Defense aids in removing young women’s fear as they learn how to escape violent situations. This includes a quickly-learned skill aimed at fleeing almost any sexual assault.

This four (4) hour course includes the twelve elements of personal safety critical for this age group, including date rape drugs, jogging safety, safe parking lot strategies, social media net-iquette, on-campus violence, cyber stalkers and more. Young women enjoy and are empowered by our ten instinctive street fighting tools we teach.

Divas In Defense is different from other self-defense programs. We focus on avoiding problematic situations, but if a young woman finds herself in danger, our techniques enable her to temporarily disable an attacker so she can run away.

REGISTER NOW

 

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On Her Own is designed for high school juniors/seniors and college women who will be or currently living alone. The course offers empowerment, inspiration and some street fighting skills developed to counterattack a perpetrator. We let women know they have the right to stand up for themselves in relationships and on the street. Divas In Defense aids in removing young women’s fear as they learn how to escape violent situations. This includes a quickly-learned skill aimed at fleeing almost any sexual assault.

This four (4) hour course includes the twelve elements of personal safety critical for this age group, including date rape drugs, jogging safety, safe parking lot strategies, social media net-iquette, on-campus violence, cyber stalkers and more. Young women enjoy and are empowered by our ten instinctive street fighting tools we teach.

Divas In Defense is different from other self-defense programs. We focus on avoiding problematic situations, but if a young woman finds herself in danger, our techniques enable her to temporarily disable an attacker so she can run away.

REGISTER NOW

 

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Our Fierce & Fabulous prepares the DIVA (Dangerous If Violently Attacked) in you for day-to-day challenges you may face. It enables you to recognize potentially hazardous situations and be aware of your surroundings.

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Our Fierce & Fabulous prepares the DIVA (Dangerous If Violently Attacked) in you for day-to-day challenges you may face. It enables you to recognize potentially hazardous situations and be aware of your surroundings.

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Our Fierce & Fabulous prepares the DIVA (Dangerous If Violently Attacked) in you for day-to-day challenges you may face. It enables you to recognize potentially hazardous situations and be aware of your surroundings.

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Our Fierce & Fabulous prepares the DIVA (Dangerous If Violently Attacked) in you for day-to-day challenges you may face. It enables you to recognize potentially hazardous situations and be aware of your surroundings.

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