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Marissa Alexander Sentenced: Florida Mom Who Shot At Abusive Husband Gets 20 Years In Prison

“Injustice Anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
Marissa Alexander, the 31-year-old Florida woman who fired what her family calls a warning shot at her abusive husband, was sentenced Friday morning to 20 years in prison.
Alexander was convicted of three counts of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon for firing into a wall near her husband and his two young children at their Jacksonville home in 2010. Alexander has maintained that she wasn’t trying to hurt anyone and that she was standing her ground against a man who had over the course of nearly a year punched and choked her on several different occasions. Alexander says that she believed she was protected that day under the state’s Stand Your Ground Law, which gives people wide discretion in using deadly force to defend themselves.
A judge and a jury disagreed.
The State Attorney’s Office offered a plea bargain that would have sent Alexander to prison for three years, but she rejected it, hoping to convince a jury that she had been defending herself when she fired the weapon.
Alexander’s case has become the latest battleground in a fight against what Alexander’s supporters call the misapplication of the Stand Your Ground Law and Florida’s mandatory minimum sentencing laws, which offer stiff sentences for crimes involving guns.
According to Florida’s 10-20-Life statutes, anyone who pulls a gun during a crime receives a mandatory 10-year sentence. Firing a gun during the commission of a crime equals a mandatory 20-year sentence. Anyone convicted of shooting and killing another person during a crime is sentenced to 25 years to life in prison.
Alexander, who did not have a criminal record before the shooting, was convicted of felony assault with a gun.
“Florida’s mandatory 10-20-life gun law forced the Court to impose an arbitrary, unjust and completely inappropriate sentence,” said Greg Newburn, Florida project director for Families Against Mandatory Minimums, a group that fights to repeal such laws. “As long as Florida keeps its inflexible gun sentencing laws, we will continue to see cases like Ms. Alexander’s.”
Alexander, a mother of three, and her family have vowed to keep fighting.
“It’s like a nightmare that we can’t wake up from,” Helen Jenkins, Alexander’s mother, told HuffPost shortly after the sentencing. “But we just take it one day at a time. Emotionally we are spent, but every day we start over because we have to fight for Marissa.”
Jenkins said the family is currently raising funds to hire another attorney to appeal Alexander’s case.
Angela Corey, the state attorney who oversaw the case against Alexander, said that justice was indeed served and that Alexander was angry and reckless, not fearful, on the night of the shooting. Just because no one was harmed in the incident doesn’t make the shooting any less a punishable crime, Corey said.
“I feel like when someone fires a loaded gun inside of a home with two children standing in the direction where the bullet was fired, we have to have tough laws that say you don’t do that,” Corey told HuffPost. “Justice, with the laws of the state of Florida, was served. But I don’t believe her supporters will ever believe that.”
The Jacksonville courtroom in which Alexander was sentenced was packed with Alexander’s family and supporters. At one point, according to news reports, a group of young supporters stood up and sang or chanted, “We who believe in justice will not rest!”
One by one, Alexander’s family members addressed the court, including Alexander’s mother and father, a sister and a brother who broke down in tears as they talked about their sister and how they believe the system had wronged her.
Alexander’s daughter, Havelin, 11, read from a letter she’d written and questioned “how my mom could be beaten but she’s the one arrested,” according to Lincoln Alexander, the girl’s father and Marissa’s ex-husband.
“That’s the reason why I’m fighting,” Lincoln Alexander told Huffpost. “I’m fighting for my kids … I knew this day was coming and my thoughts were on them. Would they be strong enough?”
If Alexander’s future appeals are unsuccessful, and she serves her full 20-year term in prison, her twins will be 31 years old when she is released. Her youngest will be 22.
“Today was another tough day for them,” Lincoln Alexander said of his kids. “Once they took Marissa away and we walked out of the court and everything was over, that’s when it was toughest.”
On Aug. 1, 2010, a fight between Alexander and her husband, Rico Gray, 36, left her cornered in the couple’s home. She fled into the garage to escape but was trapped behind a jammed door, she stated in court documents. She said she grabbed the gun she kept in the garage, returned to the house and, when Gray threatened to kill her, fired a single shot to ward him off.
Gray ran out of the house with his two sons and called the police. Alexander was arrested and charged. She unsuccessfully invoked her right to stand her ground in court. Alexander’s sentencing comes 435 days after the shooting. It took a jury 12 minutes to find her guilty.
Gray himself admitted in a deposition to abusing “all five of his babies’ mamas except one,” and to hitting Alexander. Alexander’s family and supporters say that Gray’s testimony should not be trusted, because he perjured himself by changing his account of events on the night of the shooting between his early depositions and later court hearings — a claim that was not disputed by Corey, the state attorney.
Alexander’s case has drawn comparisons to the case of Trayvon Martin, the unarmed black teenager shot to death in February by a neighborhood watch volunteer who claimed he shot Martin in self-defense. The shooter, George Zimmerman, was initially released after the police said he was within his legal rights to defend himself. He was later arrested and charged with second-degree murder more than 40 days later.
Both the Martin and Alexander cases have stirred controversy around Florida’s self-defense and gun laws, but it wasn’t until some media pivoted from the Martin case to Alexander’s that her name became known outside of Jacksonville.
Her family has set up a website and has appeared on cable news shows and nationally syndicated radio programs to spread the word about the “injustice” that they believe Alexander has suffered.
But in the past week, Angela Corey, the state attorney (who also is prosecuting Zimmerman in the Martin case), has launched a media offensive to combat what she has called “misinformation” being spread by the family about the circumstances of the shooting.
Shortly after the sentencing, Corey echoed comments she made to HuffPost earlier this week, saying that Alexander’s own actions on the night of the incident and in the following months have landed her in the position that she is in.
While Alexander’s family has portrayed her as a victim at the end of her emotional rope and in fear of her life, Corey says Alexander fired in anger and not in fear. Corey disputes the so-called warning shot into the ceiling with photographs that show bullet holes much lower, going through a kitchen wall and into the living room where Corey said Gray and his boys were.
“The fact that nobody got hurt has to be balanced with the fact that someone could have gotten hurt,” Corey said. “The kids being right next to him changed everything.”
About four months after Alexander was released on bail, on orders to have no contact with Gray, she got into an altercation with him at his home that gave him a black eye, Corey said. Alexander was arrested and charged with battery, to which she pleaded no contest.
Corey said that Alexander’s actions — engaging with a man of whom she claimed to be deathly afraid, and assaulting him — “didn’t show much of her being remorseful” or “being a peaceful person.”
“Everybody is still ignoring that she got out on bond and chose to go back over there and hit him a second time,” Corey said. “That was kind of an indication of where putting her on probation, where you might have been able to do that before, was off the table since she disregarded a judges order.”
Alexander’s family said the second incident took place just days before her newborn would have been dropped off of her insurance, and that she went over to Gray’s home to have him sign paperwork that would have kept the baby insured. The family say that he attacked her that night and provided HuffPost with her medical records, which show that she suffered minor scrapes and bruising on her face, hand and arm.
After the altercation, Alexander left Gray’s house, and Gray called the police.
On Friday Corey’s office provided a police report, photographs and a 911 call that counter Alexander’s claims.
In the police report, Gray claimed that Alexander came over to drop off their daughter, and that when he rebuffed Alexander’s request to spend the night, she “became enraged and began striking him on the face.” Gray said he raised his hands, the report continues, and he yelled out to his sons to call the police. The responding officer wrote that Gray’s children corroborated that account.
When the police contacted her an hour or so later, according to the report, she said she didn’t understand why they were contacting her and that she had an “alibi.” The police noted swelling and a cut under Gray’s left eye and no visible injuries on Alexander. But on the way to the jail, Alexander said she felt light-headed and became unresponsive.
An officer then “observed that there was a small cut under the suspect’s eye that was not there prior to her being placed in my back seat.”
Alexander was rearrested that night and has remained in custody ever since.

See original story HERE.

Women’s Rights In Turkey

Women’s Rights In Turkey

What a difficult story to read, given the account on the state of women’s rights in Turkey given the substantial efforts to achieve equality and security for millions of women. Turkey’s government has not only adopted far-reaching legislation that strengthens the authorities’ ability to prevent and prosecute violence against women, but it has also taken steps to ensure full implementation of these laws.They have intensified training and held numerous symposia and workshops, and even launched a broad public education program to raise awareness about women’s violence.

 

In Instanbul, a 37-year-old mother of two, has lived on the run for 15 years, ever since her abusive husband tracked her down, broke down her door and shot her in the leg six times after she refused to return to him. According to the women, she said her husband had since kidnapped her mother and stabbed her brother, trying to force them to reveal her whereabouts. She repeatedly turned to the police. But, she said, they chided her to return to her husband. On one account, after her husband came to pick her up at the police station, she said she heard an officer advise him to break her legs so she could not escape.

To read more about the articles, please visit: http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9A05EED71F39F93AA15757C0A9649D8B63&ref=domesticviolence

and http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/03/opinion/womens-rights-in-turkey.html?ref=domesticviolence

U.S. Senate Passes Aid to Victims of Domestic Violence

The. U.S. Democrats are encouraging lawmakers in the Republican-led House to quickly pass legislation to reauthorize assistance and aid to victims of domestic violence. $660 million dollars was authorized through the year 2016 thanks to a 68-31 vote on the renewal of the 1994 Violence Against Women Act. This bill will assist in domestic violence shelters and police training.

A Nevada Democrat said, “Today’s strong bipartisan vote will give law enforcement agencies the tools they need to prosecute and convict the perpetrators of these heinous crimes, and will help victims get the protection and support they need.” This bill passed should have all the elements to help women, all victims and should improve the prosecution of these crimes.

Since 1994, domestic violence has dropped more than 50%. However, 1 in 3 women in the U.S. will experience rape, physical violence, or stalking by a partner.

To read more about this article, please visit http://www.businessweek.com/news/2012-04-27/u-dot-s-dot-senate-passes-aid-to-victims-of-domestic-violence

 

Rape victims say military labels them ‘crazy’

Here’s a very interesting story… ” Rape victims say the military labels them as ‘crazy’ “.

Four women were interviewed and although they joined different branches of the military they happen to share a very common experience. Stephanie Schroeder joined the U.S. Marine Corps, Anne Moore inlisted in the Army, while Jenny McClendon joined the Navy and Panayiota Bertziki was a member of the Coast Guard. Each of these women claimed they were raped, each received a psychiatric diagnosis and shortly thereafter, each were  discharged from the military after reporting a sexual assault.

-Schroeder claims a fellow Marine followed her into a bathroom, then began punching her, ripping her pants off and raped her.

-Moore says a non commissioned officer tried to rape her, but once she tried to report it, her first sergeant tore up her paperwork and basically told her to forget about it, as if it never happened.

-McClendon was raped by a superior. Soon after she reported it, she was diagnosed with a personality disorder and told she was unfit to serve.

-Bertziki was forced out of the Coast Guard while receiving an adjustment disorder diagnosis after reporting that she had been punched in the face and raped by a shipmate.

U.S. Defense of Secretary, Leon Panetta exclaims, “The number of sexual assaults in the military is unacceptable.”

In 2011 nearly 3,191 military sexual assaults were reported. However, given that most are not reported, the Pentagon estimates a little closer to 19,000!! How disturbing???

To read more about this story please go here.

Rape victims say military labels them ‘crazy’

Stop The Pain: 2nd Annual Teen Summit on Dating Violence & Bully Prevention

The Positive Results Corporation
and Unity One

Presents

Stop The Pain: 2nd Annual Teen Summit on Dating Violence & Bully Prevention

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Los Angeles Convention Center

West Hall, 500 Series Meeting Room

10:00 am – 5:00 pm

Calling Middle & High School & 1st Year College Students
Earn 10 Community Service Hour Credits
In an effort to bring reliable, relevant and up-to-date information & tools to our youth, their families and our communities regarding Teen Dating Violence (TDV), Bullies, Alcohol Awareness and Sexual Assault Awareness, The Positive Results presents our 2nd Annual Summit, for a Day of Information and Dialogue.

Join Us For:

  • Panel Discussion facilitated by Chenese Lewis with Industry Experts, Workshops, Resource Tables, Continental Breakfast, Lunch & Gift Bags
  • Workshops For Young Men
  • Man Up, What it Means to Be a Man (Part 1)
  • Man Up, The Importance of Staying in School (Part 2)
  • No Father – No Excuse,
  • Gang Prevention
  • The Power of Language (Hosted By WinForever)
  • Workshops For Young Ladies
  • Self Defense Training (How to get attacker off of you, so you can get away safely)
  • Self Esteem
  • Finding the Beauty In You – Understanding MakeUp & You
  • Workshops For Young Ladies & Young Men Only
  • Teen Dating Violence Prevention
  • Sexting , Texting & Social Internet Sites
  • Workshops For Young For Everyone
  • Bully Prevention
  • Healthy Relationships
  • Workshops For Young For Parents/Adults
  • Understanding the Signs of Abuse

Bring your good attitude and lean tool and tips to stay safe!
Feel free to contact us at www.prc123.org to learn more about The Positive Results Corporation, to Sponsor or provide donations for gift bags.
Contact Kandee Lewis @

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or (323) 787-9252

In The State Of Florida – Marissa Alexander Had A Gun Permit, Stood Her Ground, Did Not Shoot Or Kill Anyone and Faces 20 Years In Prison

Dear Supporters:

On August 1 2010, my premature baby girl, born nine days earlier, was in the Baptist South N.I.C.U. fighting for her life and I would too be fighting for my life in my own home against an attack from my husband.

My name is Marissa Alexander, I am a mother of three children, but at the present time, I am not able to be with them due to the following circumstances. I am currently sitting in the Pretrial Detention Facility in Jacksonville FL, Duval County awaiting a sentence for three counts of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon with no intent to harm. Before my life changed drastically on that August afternoon, I was in the perilous position of leaving an abusive relationship with my husband who has history of violence and documented domestic abuse towards women. Our history included one which required me to place an injunction for protection against violence and was active during the month of August 2010.

In an unprovoked jealous rage, my husband violently confronted me while using the restroom. He assaulted me, shoving, strangling and holding me against my will, preventing me from fleeing all while I begged for him to leave. After a minute or two of trying to escape, I was able to make it to the garage where my truck was parked, but in my haste to leave I realized my keys were missing. I tried to open the garage but there was a mechanical failure. I was unable to leave, trapped in the dark with no way out. For protection against further assault I retrieved my weapon; which is registered and I have a concealed weapon permit. Trapped, no phone, I entered back into my home to either leave through another exit or obtain my cell phone.

He and my two stepsons were supposed to be exiting the house thru the front door, but he didn’t leave. Instead he came into the kitchen that leads to the garage and realized I was unable to leave. Instead of leaving thru the front door where his vehicle was parked outside of the garage, he came into the kitchen by himself. I was terrified from the first encounter and feared he came to do as he had threatened. The weapon was in my right hand down by my side and he yelled, “Bitch I will kill you!”, and charged toward me. In fear and desperate attempt, I lifted my weapon up, turned away and discharged a single shot in the wall up in the ceiling. As I stood my ground it prevented him from doing what he threatened and he ran out of the home. Outside of the home, he contacted the police and falsely reported that I shot at him and his sons. The police arrived and I was taken into custody.

I was devastated and would continue to be for months following the incident. I had to appear in court all the way up until trial as I plead not guilty and know that I acted in self-defense. I believe my actions saved my life or prevented further harm, but preserved that of my husband who was completely irrational, extremely violent, and unpredictable that day.

Florida has a self-defense law and it includes the right to stand your ground. Below are the facts of my concern with the incorrect way the law was applied and ultimately the injustice in my case.

  • The alleged victim, my husband, under sworn statement in November 2010, admitted he was the aggressor, threatened my life and was so enraged he didn’t know what he would do.
  • The alleged victim, my husband, was arrested for domestic violence two times, once for abuse against me. The attack against me was so violent; I ended up in the hospital.
  • Prior to my arrest, I told the office I was in fear for my life due to the prior violence against me. I also told the officer there was a domestic injunction in place to protect me against abuse from the alleged victim. This information was written in detail by the officer in my arrest report, but ignored for some unknown reason.
  • In July of 2011, a hearing was held, where I along with the alleged victims testified as it relates to the stand your ground law and its immunity from prosecution.
  • After the hearing, Judge Elizabeth Senterfitt denied my motion, citing that I could have exited the house thru the master bedroom window, front door, and/or sliding glass back door. The law specifically states: No duty to retreat.
  • My attorney entered a standing objection on the record to the ruling and we proceeded to trial.
  • During that time, Angela Corey, our State Attorney met with the alleged victims. I also along with my attorney met with Angela Corey, John Guy, and then prosecutor Christen Luikart. I justified my actions to them and the truth as I have told it has remained the same.
  • Knowing our prior domestic abuse history, Angela Corey was hard pressed for the minimum mandatory, which provisions allow for prosecution to wave those stipulations. I was not guilty, nor did I believe that was fair and just under the circumstances. She also allowed for those same provisions in the State vs. Vonda Parker, same charges different circumstances which did not include self-defense.
  • Florida uses a law commonly known as 10-20-life as a sentencing guideline when a felony takes place with the use of a weapon. Under this statute, my felony charge of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon without intent to harm carries a twenty year mandatory sentence.
  • Stand your ground law has been applied in multiple recent incidents, the following is just a couple of incidents. Carl Kroppman Jr was allowed to use this law to avoid being arrested/charged during a road rage incident on the Buckman Bridge in Jacksonville, FL in August of 2011. Marqualle Woolbright of Ocala, FL avoided murder charges due to the stand your ground law when he shoot and killed someone.

I am a law abiding citizen and I take great pride in my liberty, rights, and privileges as one. I have vehemently proclaimed my innocence and my actions that day. The enigma I face since that fateful day I was charged through trial, does the law cover and apply to me too?

A step further and more importantly is in light of recent news, is justice for all include everyone, regardless of gender, race or aristocratic dichotomies. I simply want my story heard, reviewed and the egregious way in which my case was handled from start to finish serve as an eye opener for all and especially those responsible for upholding judicial affairs.

The threat that day was very real, imminent, and the battery on me occurred minutes before the decision I made to protect myself. That decision was a last resort, necessary and a reaction to the continued threat on my life. I am a believer that grace allowed for my response to be carried out in a non-lethal manner. This prevented the imminent threat and harm a non-fatal tactic, but not against an unknown attacker, rather my very own husband. That was by far the most difficult position to be in nine days after giving birth to a six week premature infant. My heart goes out for my two stepsons and always has had a hurt and sincere empathy for them being subjected innocently to that trauma.

The law states that I was justified in standing my ground and meeting force with force up to including deadly force, but political views and concerns states otherwise in the 4th circuit court.

So my last questions and valid concerns are what was I supposed to do that day and the stand your ground law who is it for?

Sincerely,
Lincoln B. Alexander Jr on behalf of Marissa Alexander

View original article here.

Campus Safety for College Women

Evaluate the safety and security of the places on campus and the quality and availability of resources to ensure safety. For example, find out about campus escort services often offered through campus security and student government programs.

Do not walk by yourself at night. Walk with a friend or use a campus escort service.

Report any violence that you see to orientation and awareness programs on campus. Help develop effective linkages between campus and community law enforcement personnel.

  • Do not let anyone into your dorm who looks like they don’t belong there.
  • Support a coordinated community response/ college initiative to prevent violence against women.
  • Provide a voice for women on campus. Start a support group and/or victim advocacy group on campus.
  • Take a self-defense course.

Define or Destroy Your Character, In ‘Less Than 140 Characters

Perusing through my timeline, I tether on the line of amazement and amusement.  One “friend” posts:

“Amazing how my life changed when I finally let God give me the love I was searching for. *tear*”

While another posts:

“I think im bout to go to sleep if ion find a move! Im sleepy and not hittin the lotto fucked my mood up!”

Which raises the question, Who am I allowing in my social network?  Nearing 40 years old, I realize I have created multiple networks over those years.  Am I holding on to past relationships which should remain there; in my past? How many of these hundreds/thousands of people do I really know? Why do I share intimate details of my life with people I don’t know?

Although mind boggling, I have determined in my assessment; it is not conducive to a safe lifestyle for my family or I. Shopping in the grocery store, I’ve been approached by people like… “Cole!!! How are you?  How are Vanessa and the children? The little one is getting so BIG!”

My dumbfounded stare gives away my naivety until they say, “I’m sorry, I am (insert name) and I am your friend on Facebook.  I also follow you on Twitter.”

Whoa! Are you serious?  I have never seen this person in my entire life and they almost KNOW me. The day I had that feeling was the day I realized how we subject ourselves to attack and scrutiny daily.

As a co-owner of a business which teaches women self-defense, I began researching how social, social networking has become.  It was in these findings, I decided to share with you how easy you can “Define or Destroy Your Character, In Less Than 140 Characters.

Before we enter the crux of the matter, the surface is simple.  Social networking is a cesspool for identity theft and cyber sexual predators.  I cannot emphasize enough the dangers of social networking if not performed correctly.  There are people who want to know your every move and you are giving it to them play-by-play.

Social sites such as FourSquare, Twitter, Yelp, etc. gives you the option of utilizing a global positioning system (GPS) to “check-in” where you are.  This makes me cringe every time I hear of a woman candidly handing over pertinent information to their location.  You have the possibility of inviting unwanted company as well as telling the world… “No one is at my house, go rob it!”

Be careful!  There are so many ways to injure yourself on these sites.  Yet, there are simple things you could change to be protected.   Here is a checklist of NO MOs:

  • No Mo “countdowns” to going on vacation.

Your countdown to vacation is a criminal’s countdown to burglary. Saying when, where and how long gives a could-be criminal, all the information they need.

  • No Mo “check-ins” giving away my current location.

Better to do it on way out of door! Saying where you are gives potential stalkers a tool to track and find you.  It also gives an open invitation to an empty residence.

  • No Mo “celebrating” birthdays of my children with pictures and names.

Please understand that putting your children’s names with pictures and ages give child predators an upper hand.  In addition, NEVER put the name of the school your child attends.

  • No Mo “ignoring” the privacy setting changes.

It took me getting an Android phone to realize how much information is “synced” without request or regards for personal privacy.  If I had someone’s phone number, it showed their photo in my contents, other numbers and linked their Facebook profile.  Not safe!

For those of you who “never “post personal information, take the time to read the following blog posts:

Social Media Horror Stories: Top 5 ways to lose your job via social media. by Tonya Nelson

Five Scary Social Media Horror Stories by Angela West, PC World

Social Media Changed My Life by Danielle Liss

My life changed this week. And I owe it all to social media. by Brian Remmel

More safety tips at www.divasindefense.com

Real Women/Real Sexy: Divas In Defense

Superhero: a fictional hero having extraordinary or superhuman powers; also : an exceptionally skillful or successful person

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/superhero

I love superheroes! Being a mom of two boys, superheroes are a big part of my everyday conversations with them. I want to share with you one of my favorite superhero stories. This story, however, is not about a fictional character, but a mother who did an extraordinary thing in a frightening circumstance.

When I lived in San Francisco in the mid 90’s there was a news story that caught my attention and has stuck with me all these years.
A young mother parked her car on the street while she did some shopping. She returned to her car, unlocked her steering wheel lock (The Club), put her child in the back seat and started her car. She still had the club in her hand as she was coming around the car from the passenger’s side, where she had placed her shopping bags, when a man jumped behind the wheel and slammed the car door in her face so he could drive off, stealing her car and the frightened child in the back seat. The mother, without a moments hesitation, wrapped her hand around the door inside the car (the window was down) and as the driver drug her down the street she proceeded to hit him with all her might with The Club she still gripped in her hand. In the process she broke his jaw, crushed his cheekbone and fractured his left arm! The driver stopped the car, crawled out onto the street and begged her to stop! He lay there in the street bleeding and broken until police arrived.
That, my friends, is what I call a superhero!!

I’ve always hoped that in a circumstance where I might find myself or those I love in danger I too would be able to “Fight Like A Girl” and kick some ass if I had to.

There are some frightening statistics out there about crime and violence against women and children that speak to why all of us should be prepared to defend or protect ourselves if we ever needed to.

In 2005, 1,181 women were murdered by an intimate partner. That’s an average of three women every day. Of all the women murdered in the U.S., about one-third were killed by an intimate partner.

4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes every year.

232,960 women in the U.S. were raped or sexually assaulted in 2006.

Every 2 minutes, somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted.

Statistics taken from http://www.now.org/issues/violence/stats.html

These are staggering and scary statistics! Every woman should be skilled in a few basic techniques that would give her a fighting chance, or if nothing else the opportunity to flee a life threatening situation.
Let me introduce you to the man that can show you how to be Fierce and Fabulous!

Cole Parker is the co-founder of Divas In Defense, a self defense system that is geared toward women and girls. In this episode we were invited by our friend, musical artist, Zoe Myers to attend a Divas In Defense class with Cole and learn how to Fight Like A Girl!

 
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Post courtesy of Angel Maynard. Original post can be found here.

Enough of fear! L&D nurse gives back, empowering women to be safe and fear-free. (open access)

As a young child, I spent a lot of time homeless or living in the seedy parts of town. Many nights were spent in fear. One night, I awoke to the sounds of a man banging on the door, yelling obscenities and threatening to kill us all. I was about 10 years old, and we were living in a very poor part of town. We had no phone and no way out, except for the door the inebriated man was banging on. My mother handed me a hammer and told me that, if the man got through the door, I was to use it to break the bedroom window, grab my sister and jump. Our one-bedroom apartment was on the second floor.

I will never forget the fear in my mother’s eyes as she held our only source of protection—a kitchen knife. Thank goodness, the door was strong and, once daylight broke, the intruder left.

Memory of the fear and struggles my mother encountered in her daily life inspired me to become a nurse. I knew I could make a real difference to people in need and give back to my community in so many different ways. As a nurse, I would be able to provide compassionate care in a medical setting.

Women’s health has always been my passion, and that is why I chose to be a labor and delivery nurse. In my maternal-child nursing role, I became even more aware of the many women who find themselves in violent or abusive situations, who feel not only helpless, but also unworthy of a safe and fear-free life.

During a visit with my sister, she signed us up for a class offered by Divas in Defense, a program that builds self-esteem in women and provides them with the physical and mental tools they need to ensure their environment is safe. The class taught me to be more attentive to my surroundings and, after completing it, I felt more empowered to move safely through my world. I decided I wanted to share what I had experienced with others and, if possible, to have the program included among the many opportunities offered for women at Central Baptist Hospital.

To accomplish that goal, I knew I had to be proactive and get my nursing peers on board to support me in presenting my idea to Karen Hill, chief operating officer and nurse executive at Central Baptist. In the process, I learned to be persistent and extend myself beyond my comfort zone.

Starting a program from scratch isn’t easy and can be intimidating when you need institutional buy-in. I had a clear purpose, however, and was passionate about the subject, which was a good place to start. I knew I wanted to make the project a team effort, so I spent time compiling a vision statement and made a poster detailing my plans for peers to review and critique.

To test my idea, I made a series of small presentations on my unit and offered people the opportunity to sign a petition requesting that Central Baptist Hospital sponsor the first community Divas in Defense program in our state. Because a staff member in the surgical services department had been the victim of domestic violence, awareness within the hospital of the need for such a program was palpable. More than 100 people signed the petition, which I presented to Hill.

Having gained the confidence and support of my unit and co-workers, I needed to make sure the business side of my proposal was ready for presentation to the hospital’s administrators. Working through the business side of establishing the program at Central Baptist was challenging, and I learned a lot about business plans.

I also learned about the many questions that have to be answered and the things that need to be explored before finalizing a program proposal that requires resources. I came to realize that, although I had a great idea, I had to be willing to slow down my timeline to research the details and think about the “what if.” Hill helped by answering my questions, and she also made sure I asked all the right questions of the program sponsors in Atlanta. This pre-program preparation enabled me to do my best in presenting my idea, with Hill, to the hospital’s director of community education. As chief nursing officer, Hill gave me ongoing support and the opportunity to give a concise, detailed presentation outlining the resources that would be needed.

My hard work paid off, and the project was approved. The hospital sponsored Renee Phillips, RN, also a labor and delivery nurse, and me to attend certification training in Atlanta and to bring the program back to our employees and community. Prior to this, Divas in Defense had not expanded beyond Atlanta, Georgia, and we were thus among the first instructors certified outside the Atlanta area. Our community education department made space available and helped notify others about the offering. We also presented the process and outcomes at the hospital’s annual Evidence-Based Practice Symposium.

As a staff nurse and patient advocate, I am amazed to have accomplished something so dear to my heart. With the establishment of Divas in Defense at Central Baptist Hospital, I now have the opportunity to provide care both physically and emotionally to women. I feel so blessed to work as a nurse. I am able to touch lives, and my life is touched daily by the women I care for and by my co-workers. My mother is very proud of me, as I am of her. RNL

Kim McGinnis, BSD, RN, is a labor and delivery nurse at Central Baptist Hospital in Lexington, Kentucky, USA. Karen S. Hill, DNP, RN, NEA-BC, FACHE, is chief operating officer and nurse executive at Central Baptist. She also serves as editor-in-chief of JONA, the Journal of Nursing Administration.

Post courtesy of Reflections of Nursing Leadership. Original post found here.