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Choose Happy

Our daily lives are full of choices. The good, the bad, the happy, the sad; they are all of our choices. Therefore, I propose the time for you to Choose Happy!

Of course, this sounds much easier than it is. The understanding of the woes of life weighing heavy on our minds, make the idea of happiness seem impossible. One thing I can guarantee, there are billions who are equally or worse off than you.

In Rhonda Byrne’s, The Secret, she writes “Be grateful for what you have now. As you begin to think about all the things in your life you are grateful for, you will be amazed at the never-ending thoughts that come back to you of more things to be grateful for. You have to make a start, and then the law of attraction will receive those grateful thoughts and give you more just like them.”

Can you imagine if we could find peace and happiness with what we have than what we want? I challenge you, take a week and reflect on personal happiness. Say hello to the friend you stop talking to because of petty indifference. Volunteer some time to those less fortunate. Do a kind deed daily for a stranger.

There is a movie called “Yes Man” starring Jim Carrey; outside of hilarious, it gives a positive outlook on energy. The storyline is grounded in a guy who decided to say “yes” to everything for a year. In the year, he had a lifetime of adventures and challenges; but his outlook on life was changed forever.

Once again, take the time to be grateful for what you have and smile at the positives. You may have millions of choices in a lifetime, but you have only one life! Make your choices count, Choose Happy!

“It’s On Us” To Stop Sexual Assault

Lately, it seems like every time I turn on any news station, there is another college fraternity being suspended for allegations of some type of sexual assault. Recently the University of Virginia has suspended all fraternities and parties associated with the fraternities following a Rolling Stone Magazine article that describes one student’s account of being gang raped and her annoyance with her school to hold her attackers responsible. President Teresa A. Sullivan wrote in a statement to the university community. “Rape is an abhorrent crime that has no place in the world, let alone on the campuses and grounds of our nation’s colleges and universities.

How can we, the female society, willing fill out applications to our dream schools and most of the social clubs are on suspension or investigation for sexual assault. I wanted to know, what are college administrations and our governments doing to protect us on campus from sexual assaults?

Well here is the answer. The Obama Administration launched “It’s On Us” Public Awareness Campaign this year. This campaign has been formulated:

• To RECOGNIZE that non-consensual sex is sexual assault.
• To IDENTIFY situations in which sexual assault may occur.
• To INTERVENE in situations where consent has not or cannot be given.
• To CREATE an environment in which sexual assault is unacceptable and survivors are supported.

“It’s On Us” I believe is a pledge that all schools and colleges can implement to make a big difference on how the female student body.

When a victim can have the support of her school and that her allegations will not go unheard, that is already a strong unified campus that I would want to be apart of.

While on winter break sign your Young Diva for Divas In Defense “On Her Own” Workshop December 20th, 2014:

Take the “Its On Us” Pledge Here:
http://itsonus.org/#pledge_open

“UVA Suspends Fraternities after Report on Gang Rape Allegations.” CNN. Ralph Ellis, 23 Nov. 2014. Web. 23 Nov. 2014

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Give A Potential Attacker the Finger!

“It’s like a blue light in the palm of your hand.”

With attacks on unsuspecting victims popping up left and right, it’s always boggled my mind that there hasn’t been a way to immediately and discreetly contact the police vs. calling 911 outright. The latter is a dead give away to any potential aggressor that you’ve called for help. With all the modern technology out there, I thought, why can’t people somehow TEXT 911?

While mobile phones have helped a lot of people escape dangerous situations that are detrimental to personal safety and well-being; smartphones have tried to take it to the next level. I’m not armed with data or analytical insight here but in general, smartphones have not been a radical addition to this security issue. There are apps which help you alert the cops and your friends when you are in danger. SafeTrek is one such app, a very ingenious one at that. SafeTrek promises to significantly enhance student safety by augmenting the infrequently-used “blue light” emergency phone systems on many college campuses.

SafeTrek is a security app for the iPhone and Android. It’s a very simple app which – when used and triggered – will alert the cops silently with a danger-alert tagged with your current location. When you feel unsafe, all you have to do is tap and release a button on the app. The Safe Trek system includes an app where students worried about their safety can hold down a large virtual button that causes the phone to vibrate and the screen to animate. If the user doesn’t input a private PIN within ten seconds, the local police dispatcher receives a web alert that tracks the student’s path on a map. The dispatcher and student can exchange text messages or speak directly until the situation is resolved

Many lives have been saved because of SafeTrek. Whether a user is walking down an alley late at night or hears a strange noise in his/her own home, SafeTrek offers a guarantee of security when the user might not be able to call the police on their own.

Designed to beat the time it takes to dial 911 and send your SOS message, SafeTrek started as a small project but has found some widespread success. The app works very simply:

If you feel unsafe – say, when you are out in the night or going through deserted streets with suspicious folks strolling around – open the app and press-and-hold on the Safe button.
• After you are out of the unsafe zone and are sure that you are safe, remove your finger from the button and enter a PIN to cancel the alarm system which will send a message to the authorities.
• In case you are in an emergency, all you do is remove the finger from the Safe button. In ten seconds, if you don’t do anything, the SOS will be sent and your location will be tracked/monitored constantly.
• You can cancel the alert in ten seconds.

Real Women/Real Sexy: Divas In Defense

Superhero: a fictional hero having extraordinary or superhuman powers; also : an exceptionally skillful or successful person

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/superhero

I love superheroes! Being a mom of two boys, superheroes are a big part of my everyday conversations with them. I want to share with you one of my favorite superhero stories. This story, however, is not about a fictional character, but a mother who did an extraordinary thing in a frightening circumstance.

When I lived in San Francisco in the mid 90’s there was a news story that caught my attention and has stuck with me all these years.
A young mother parked her car on the street while she did some shopping. She returned to her car, unlocked her steering wheel lock (The Club), put her child in the back seat and started her car. She still had the club in her hand as she was coming around the car from the passenger’s side, where she had placed her shopping bags, when a man jumped behind the wheel and slammed the car door in her face so he could drive off, stealing her car and the frightened child in the back seat. The mother, without a moments hesitation, wrapped her hand around the door inside the car (the window was down) and as the driver drug her down the street she proceeded to hit him with all her might with The Club she still gripped in her hand. In the process she broke his jaw, crushed his cheekbone and fractured his left arm! The driver stopped the car, crawled out onto the street and begged her to stop! He lay there in the street bleeding and broken until police arrived.
That, my friends, is what I call a superhero!!

I’ve always hoped that in a circumstance where I might find myself or those I love in danger I too would be able to “Fight Like A Girl” and kick some ass if I had to.

There are some frightening statistics out there about crime and violence against women and children that speak to why all of us should be prepared to defend or protect ourselves if we ever needed to.

In 2005, 1,181 women were murdered by an intimate partner. That’s an average of three women every day. Of all the women murdered in the U.S., about one-third were killed by an intimate partner.

4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes every year.

232,960 women in the U.S. were raped or sexually assaulted in 2006.

Every 2 minutes, somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted.

Statistics taken from http://www.now.org/issues/violence/stats.html

These are staggering and scary statistics! Every woman should be skilled in a few basic techniques that would give her a fighting chance, or if nothing else the opportunity to flee a life threatening situation.
Let me introduce you to the man that can show you how to be Fierce and Fabulous!

Cole Parker is the co-founder of Divas In Defense, a self defense system that is geared toward women and girls. In this episode we were invited by our friend, musical artist, Zoe Myers to attend a Divas In Defense class with Cole and learn how to Fight Like A Girl!

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Post courtesy of Angel Maynard. Original post can be found here.

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